College students don’t know how good they have it. They live alone, with no parental supervision and almost no responsibility. They have crazy amounts of free time and are in close proximity with the opposite sex all day, every day.
Unfortunately, like all good things, college must come to an end, but that’s when reality sets in. The real world is stratified, often lonely and unfriendly, and requires a ton of hard work to subsist in. All of a sudden, meeting single women, especially in your age bracket, becomes hard and expensive.
Inspired by this thread from Reddit, here are 10 good places to meet women after college, as well as some advice on how to handle your approach.
10. Your Friend’s Place
Yup, that’s right: Despite all the changes in dating technology, despite all the incredible new options available to humans looking to pair off, the best place to meet new women is at a friend’s house. If your future girl is already in your friend circle, there will be much less strain on your rapport together, making it much easier to go from acquaintance to dating. And if she has already proven she can get along with your friends, chances are, you’ll get along with her too.
This is one of the big reasons that having a large social group is so important: not only is it great to have different friends to call on when in need, but your chances of meeting new and interesting women go up exponentially the more friends you have.
Between Facebook and Twitter and whatever other social media platform is the highlight of the moment, hundreds of millions of users have created virtual profiles. Gone are the days that you might have to approach a woman to get to know her. Nowadays, using online dating, you can call up all kinds of facts about a person’s life, including whether or not they’re single and what their interests are.
No doubt one day some Silicon Valley genius will develop a technology to do away with dating and sex and romance altogether, but until that day, you can browse sites like OkCupid to find and screen women in your area.
The advantages are obvious: You can interact with a ton of women in a short period of time, and assess your compatibility via their profile information (common interests, favorite movies, hobbies, education, even income levels).
Beware, though: People have been known to lie on the internet, and words like “curvy” and “fun-sized” can get severely misused, making for some extremely awkward situations when you finally meet up in person.
No doubt this one will surprise many people, but it shouldn’t: Airports are highly trafficked places filled with extremes of human emotion. People in airports are often angry or frustrated — by a long flight, by a delay or lost baggage — but airports also showcase love and family bonds like few others places.
If you’re arriving early to check your bags and go through security, you’ll have time to kill before boarding. Use it wisely by chatting up the bored, eager-to-talk women with whom you’ll be sharing recycled oxygen in no time. What could be sexier than that?
7. Coffee Shops
Coffee shops, especially the trendy ones that attract a lot of students and younger caffeine junkies, are great places to meet women. The atmosphere is relaxed, the noise levels allow for conversation and people are loyal to their special drinks, meaning you will see the same faces over and over again.
As always, make sure you’re not interrupting something important, like a meeting or intensive study session, and even when you do find a minute to approach, don’t linger. If she’s comfortable and enjoys your company, she’ll let you know later, and if not, she’ll be grateful you spared her an awkward goodbye.
6. At Work
If you’re one of the lucky few to have landed a job post-graduation, congrats: You’ve also entered a dangerous world in which you will be in constant contact with women who are a huge risk to date.
Don’t get me wrong: Office work environments are great for meeting women. If they weren’t, so many companies wouldn’t need to have explicit policies prohibiting inter-office dating. But you need to tread carefully: You have no idea who has dated whom, and who will hold a grudge or be incapable of separating work and personal life.
5. Volunteer Work
Turns out volunteering isn’t all about beefing up your college applications; it can also get you laid…
Oh, OK, and it lets you give back to your community, exposes you to people you might otherwise never talk to and makes you an all-around better person. But back to getting laid:
There is no shortage of opportunities for volunteer work, and the women you meet there will almost all be abnormally down to earth and caring. Plus, socializing isn’t an option; it’s expected. You will get to know people, and if that’s something you struggle with in your day-to-day life, this is a great option.
4. At The Park
If you live in a city, parks become free public hubs for people to meet, play sports, drink a beer and have a good time. The atmosphere is relaxed and casual, perfect for approaching strangers with a smile and a sense of humor.
Bonus points if you have a cute dog (or can borrow one).
3. At The Store
You know that beautiful woman you saw Saturday night at the club, the one dressed to kill, surrounded by friends and strange men with drink offers? The one you’d literally have to wait in line to talk to? Well, come Monday afternoon, she’s in the grocery store buying toilet paper or looking for deals at a local clothing store. And now there’s no line, no abundance of men eager to buy her a drink. Truth is, most guys are terrified to approach a woman without the aid of alcohol and loud music. They might actually have to say something!
You probably don’t think about it very often, but you spend a lot of time in stores. Between groceries and clothes, you’re regularly in a public space with other people, and some of those people will be cute women you’re going to want to talk to. Don’t let the setting fool you: She’ll be flattered that even on her dressed-down days she’s catching your eye.
2. At The Gym
This one is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, you’re going to run into pretty, fit ladies in tight fitness apparel, and in a setting that isn’t nearly as intimidating as a club. On the other hand, people go to a gym for a reason, and that typically involves sweating and loud music. Know how you feel when some fellow gym goer interrupts you between bench-press sets to make small talk? That’s how the pretty blonde feels as she’s coming off the treadmill.
Learn to pick your moments. Smile at her when she’s busy doing her thing but respect her space. She’ll thank you for it and be that much more receptive when you approach her in the gym lobby or at the water fountain.
To the surprise of exactly no one, bars remain a tried-and-true place to meet women. If this upsets you, if you consider approaching women in bars a challenge or just hate the general atmosphere, you might be going to the wrong bars.
Bars come in all shapes and sizes and cater to all types of interests. If meeting new people is your goal, find one with a relaxed atmosphere. The trendy bars tend to be too loud, too concerned with impressing you and making you pay for expensive drinks, and attract so many different people that you’ll never see the same person twice.
Avoid the sports bars (too many dudes) and dive bars (too many alcoholics). Look for a consistent crowd and good food. If it’s a place you couldn’t have fun on your own or with the guys, how are you going to project fun and confidence when you approach the cutie at the bar?
Tip: If you aren’t the best at making conversation, the bar trick in this video is bound to get anyone’s attention.